SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

SinfulSunday: Day 1

Silverdrop is in the US for the next three weeks – her annual trip to see her family. She has to be able to lay down when flying, and we can’t afford 2 tickets at more than US $ 3k each.

We miss each other like crazy of course. But the other side of the coin is that it is also a three week holiday for me. Caring for somebody is hard work, and its nice to be able to chill. Does that make sense?

Anyway, I use various tactics to distract myself from the fact that she is not here for us to be sinful together. Here is day 1:-

  1. Set bread maker to produce a loaf of crusty white bread an hour before estimated wake up time (it’s harder to slice when fresh out of the tin).
  2. Cut two slices thickly.
  3. Toast until screaming hot.
  4. Add butter to taste.
  5. Apply a good, slightly bitter, orange marmalde. I am using a tart Seville orange one here.
  6. Consume.
  7. Return to end of step 5 before you’ve eaten it all and cannot get a piccie.
Yummy!

Yummy!

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SinfulSunday: Memories

Do you find, as we do, that some memories can be bitter sweet?

Today’s picture is of Silverdrop – forgive the crude filter, no faces – from around 15 years ago. This was before disability crept up on her and slowly took away many of her physical abilities. For that reason, this picture is both happy and sad in its effect on us when we look at it today.

She’s beautiful in this shot, isn’t she?

She’s beautiful now, too.  :)

Tree

Tree

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SinfulSunday: Enjoying the nJoy

The nJoy is Silverdrop’s ‘go to’ dildo. Although it is just a lump of chromed steel – but a beautiful piece of sculpture too – it does everything she needs for a guaranteed orgasm.

This shot, which I think is beautiful, wasn’t posed. Silverdrop had her eyes closed and was, I think, on her third orgasm.

What do you think of it?

Not posed but all the lovelier for it.

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SinfulSunday: Vest or Tank Top?

Silverdrop has never worn makeup – which is fine by me. She rarely wears a bra these days, but that is more due to how that over-stimulates her nerve endings. It does mean I, as a breast man, have easy access to them. Especially when she wears a vest/tank top.

What do you call the type of top she has on?

Yummy!

Yummy!

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SinfulSunday: And the collective noun for limbs is…

A tangle.

As illustrated if I do say so myself, beautifully with this picture. Apologies for the fact I was in desperate need of a shave – older pic.

You might see some moisture on Silverdrop’s thigh. I can’t imagine where that came from, although she is a squirter sometimes.  :) This also marks a return of my contributions to the ‘More Men in Sinful Sunday’ campaign, which I originally started, over a year ago now, as ‘More Cock in Sinful Sunday’.

A tangle of limbs.

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SilverHubby and Silverdrop

SinfulSunday: Red

I think there’s a suggestion of colour filters as a theme this week. I have nothing ready – been a helluva week. So here’s an old photograph that almost, sorta, kinda fits the theme and we love it.

We are both disabled now, and our reality is that we can’t play anything like as often as 12 years ago i.e. several times a day, every day, with a low-level hum of kink all the time. Basically, we were living our dream 24/7 and loving every minute of it.

These days we take what we can get, whenever we can get it.  😉

Silverdrop used to worry that when she initiated play, it was her topping from the bottom. I told her I see it more as her letting me know, like the good girl she is, that she is (perhaps unexpectedly) available. What I choose to then do with her is entirely up to me.

She has some err, interesting ways of letting me know. Here’s one from last Summer.

Silverdrop's lower right arm is visible against the bed. The image is monochrome except for the intense red of the panties wrapped around her hand.

RED!

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SilverHubby and Silverdrop

SinfulSunday: And stretch!

We are both sex and body positive – and not just because disability has changed our bodies from what they once were. As some pansexuals (including SilverDom) say: Hearts not parts.

Silvedrop has been trying to find a swimsuit for her imminent trip to the USA. I get to see her trying them on.

Even now, 13 years after we met, she turns me on so much I can’t put it into words.

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And stretch

And stretch

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SinfulSunday: After the bath is over…

… Silverdrop needs to relax for a while. The bath itself, with loads of Epsom salts (we buy food grade in 10kg bags!), is very relaxing. But the physical effort of getting out of it is a real problem. It leaves her exhausted and in pain.

I took this after her bath a couple of days ago, as she lay reading from her Kindle. She is completely naked, but nothing overtly sexual is on show. I think this shot is erotic and HotAsAllHellAndThenSome.

What do you think?

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Lovely long legs.

Lovely long legs.

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SilverHubby and Silverdrop

The word ‘Sir’ is sexual

“Another sub called me ‘Sir’ on Twitter today,” SilverDom told me over breakfast. It made him feel uncomfortable, and we spent a long time talking about why.

Context matters.

One person swats another person’s bottom. In one case, the two people are sporting team-mates showing casual encouragement. In another, they are two people who are dating. In a third, it is a boss and employee. In a fourth, it is two strangers on a crowded subway. The same gesture, but four different meanings.

The title ‘Sir’ can be said by a soldier in boot camp or a hurried waiter with different meanings, and may mean nothing at all when addressing a letter “Dear Sirs or Madames”. But in the context of BDSM, the word is charged with sexuality and power, and to use it in that context is to invoke all of those meanings.

The word ‘Sir’ is a sexual word. It is a sexual act both to say it, and to hear it. Let’s not pretend otherwise. And just as any sexual act, it can be used consensually and nonconsensually.

As you would with any sexual act, ask before you do it. “May I call you Sir?” will do nicely.

 

SilverDom’s thoughts

As Silverdrop and myself became disabled – a process which happened slowly over a few years – we became somewhat reclusive. I work from home, and she is now bed/wheelchair-bound. We saw fewer and fewer people. This has only started to change, in ‘real’ life and cyber, in the last year or so.

I have been around so long that I was a sysop on a Compuserve forum that dealt with BDSM. In fact, I think witnessed the birth of the acronym. It comes from Bondage and Discipline/Dominance and Submission/Sadism and Masochism.

Suffice to say that I used to be much more active in the scene. Silverdrop was less so, as she came to it later and is somewhat younger than me. Anyway, I got quite used to coping with other subs calling me Sir. This would happen online and in 3D/’real’ life. The Old Guard Leather folks are quite formal and I think they typically require subs and bottoms to address all Doms and Tops as Sir. I have never been that formal, as it is just not my ‘style’.

I would smile, thank them for calling me Sir, then politely ask that they didn’t, as there was no need. I would go on to explain the agreement I had with my long term sub, and how that differed with short term play partners and finally kinksters with whom I had no connection at all. These basic rules have not changed, although my partners have. Here they are:

  1. “Master” is reserved for my primary partner – Silverdrop for 13 years and for ever and ever.  :)
  2. “Sir” is what I ask temporary play partners to call me for the duration of play and aftercare. I would negotiate this with them and their primary partner if they have one.
  3. Anybody else calls me by my first name in 3D, or SilverDom/SD online.
  4. I would not ask my partner to address other Doms/Tops as “Sir” unless they were temporary playmate, for the reasons Silverdrop has said so eloquently already.

This morning, I handled it badly. In my (slight) defence, I was caught off-guard – it hasn’t happened for years. So I accept responsibility for it.

So, as Silverdrop says:

As you would with any sexual act, ask before you do it. “May I call you Sir?” will do nicely.

What are your thoughts?

 

SinfulSunday: Waiting

We don’t get to play as often as we used to, but we do what we can. This picture, which I think looks way better in black and white, was taken a few years ago. I think the post title says it all really, don’t you?

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Waiting.

Waiting.

PS. Apologies for the picture quality – older and lo-res camera.

PPS. Silverdrop has slippers on because she gets cold feet!

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