SinfulSunday: After the bath is over…

… Silverdrop needs to relax for a while. The bath itself, with loads of Epsom salts (we buy food grade in 10kg bags!), is very relaxing. But the physical effort of getting out of it is a real problem. It leaves her exhausted and in pain.

I took this after her bath a couple of days ago, as she lay reading from her Kindle. She is completely naked, but nothing overtly sexual is on show. I think this shot is erotic and HotAsAllHellAndThenSome.

What do you think?

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Lovely long legs.

Lovely long legs.

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SilverHubby and Silverdrop

The word ‘Sir’ is sexual

“Another sub called me ‘Sir’ on Twitter today,” SilverDom told me over breakfast. It made him feel uncomfortable, and we spent a long time talking about why.

Context matters.

One person swats another person’s bottom. In one case, the two people are sporting team-mates showing casual encouragement. In another, they are two people who are dating. In a third, it is a boss and employee. In a fourth, it is two strangers on a crowded subway. The same gesture, but four different meanings.

The title ‘Sir’ can be said by a soldier in boot camp or a hurried waiter with different meanings, and may mean nothing at all when addressing a letter “Dear Sirs or Madames”. But in the context of BDSM, the word is charged with sexuality and power, and to use it in that context is to invoke all of those meanings.

The word ‘Sir’ is a sexual word. It is a sexual act both to say it, and to hear it. Let’s not pretend otherwise. And just as any sexual act, it can be used consensually and nonconsensually.

As you would with any sexual act, ask before you do it. “May I call you Sir?” will do nicely.

 

SilverDom’s thoughts

As Silverdrop and myself became disabled – a process which happened slowly over a few years – we became somewhat reclusive. I work from home, and she is now bed/wheelchair-bound. We saw fewer and fewer people. This has only started to change, in ‘real’ life and cyber, in the last year or so.

I have been around so long that I was a sysop on a Compuserve forum that dealt with BDSM. In fact, I think witnessed the birth of the acronym. It comes from Bondage and Discipline/Dominance and Submission/Sadism and Masochism.

Suffice to say that I used to be much more active in the scene. Silverdrop was less so, as she came to it later and is somewhat younger than me. Anyway, I got quite used to coping with other subs calling me Sir. This would happen online and in 3D/’real’ life. The Old Guard Leather folks are quite formal and I think they typically require subs and bottoms to address all Doms and Tops as Sir. I have never been that formal, as it is just not my ‘style’.

I would smile, thank them for calling me Sir, then politely ask that they didn’t, as there was no need. I would go on to explain the agreement I had with my long term sub, and how that differed with short term play partners and finally kinksters with whom I had no connection at all. These basic rules have not changed, although my partners have. Here they are:

  1. “Master” is reserved for my primary partner – Silverdrop for 13 years and for ever and ever.  :)
  2. “Sir” is what I ask temporary play partners to call me for the duration of play and aftercare. I would negotiate this with them and their primary partner if they have one.
  3. Anybody else calls me by my first name in 3D, or SilverDom/SD online.
  4. I would not ask my partner to address other Doms/Tops as “Sir” unless they were temporary playmate, for the reasons Silverdrop has said so eloquently already.

This morning, I handled it badly. In my (slight) defence, I was caught off-guard – it hasn’t happened for years. So I accept responsibility for it.

So, as Silverdrop says:

As you would with any sexual act, ask before you do it. “May I call you Sir?” will do nicely.

What are your thoughts?

 

SinfulSunday: Waiting

We don’t get to play as often as we used to, but we do what we can. This picture, which I think looks way better in black and white, was taken a few years ago. I think the post title says it all really, don’t you?

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Waiting.

Waiting.

PS. Apologies for the picture quality – older and lo-res camera.

PPS. Silverdrop has slippers on because she gets cold feet!

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SinfulSunday: A Rare Twirl

Last Sunday, our post was rather sad. It showed Silverdrop dancing for me. This was back when she was fit and healthy, of course.

Yesterday was a good day though, and she was able to give me a very modest twirl on her way back to the bed. Technically, this picture is crap (snapped in haste on an iPhone 5S), but to me it is beautiful.

And priceless.

A very rare twirl.

A very rare twirl.

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SinfulSunday: A Twirl

Before she became disabled and bed/wheelchair bound, Silverdrop used to dance. Here she is, giving me a twirl – bra and pantie-less.  :)

So this is a happy/sad photograph for us. And, in a very real sense (and she agrees), this human has gone and won’t be back. So we sort of followed the prompt of “No humans”.

A twirl.

A twirl.

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SinfulSunday: All Dressed Down and Somewhere to Spank

I have an admission – this is an old photograph. I forgot to take a new one… busy week. But I think you’ll agree this is rather jolly nice.

Someone likes to dress up sometimes, in this case because I told her I was going to spank her as soon as I’d showered. The bruise, I seem to remember, is from a flogging the day before.

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All dressed up and somewhere to come and go and come again.

All dressed up and somewhere to come and go and come again.

 

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SinfulSunday: “Spank me, please Master.”

Some foolish types might consider Silverdrop to have been topping from the bottom when she said this. She had got into this position while I was in the bathroom one night recently, and said the words as I came into the room.

I do not consider it topping from the bottom, do you?

 

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Silverdrop has a really great butt.

Silverdrop has a really great butt.

 

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SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

SinfulSunday: A Bad Picture That Shows Most of Me.

Not what you were expecting, eh?

This picture is technically pretty dire – sorry Molly – even though it’s supposed to be all about the image.

I realised yesterday that I didn’t have anything ready. But I did have a photo that tells you an awful lot of what you need to know about me.

I am a pansexual, feminist, atheist, sci-fi geek.

If you are offended by any of those things, we need not waste any more of each other’s time.

NOTE: I’m hoping the lovely Molly will forgive me for forgetting this week’s prompt of soft focus. You can see my hands and iPhone in soft focus reflected from the laptop case. Does that count? *hopeful look*

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The lid of a laptop. It shows astickers representing pansexuality, sci-fi, atheism and feminism.

My laptop.

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SinfulSunday: More Men in Sinful Sunday

Last week I posted a ‘warts and all’ photograph which, while erotic and beautiful, was very hard for me to post. It shows my belly, scars and all. But, I am a sex-positive and body positive person, and want to encourage other people with non-traditionally beautiful body types to join in with Sinful Sunday.

Thanks for the positive comments everyone.

This week’s piccie was taken around the same time, but from a ‘safe’ angle i.e. my belly isn’t visible. I rather like it, so does Silverdrop and some friends who had a sneak preview of it yesterday.  😉

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Wank2

 

 

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