Monthly Archives: November 2012

Part 1. So I Asked SilverHubby …

… What it’s like to be bisexual pansexual, mostly monogamous, kinky and married to a straight-ish woman with gender queer tendencies.

Here is his answer:

Where do I begin?  I lost my virginity with boys and girls when I was sixteen.  Both were close friends, whom I liked/loved very much and it seemed completely natural to me to get physical with both of them – I’ve never really felt any conflict over my sexuality.  Recently I have come to realise that I am not bisexual at all – I am actually pansexual.  If I like someone enough to want to get naked with them, I’ll work with whatever they come equipped with physically, emotionally and mentally, including trans men and women.

My conflict has come from being basically monogamous.  This too has been modified in recent years.  I am open to bringing others into our relationship, so long as we do it together.  There are fantasies we both share that it would/will be great fun to explore together.  Of course, we’ve been practising some of them already with our strap-on/harness/dildo collection.  *wink*


This is one of my favourite pictures of your genderqueerness in action:-

Silverdrop and the amazing Realdoe Slim


Oh, and last time I checked (last night I seem to remember), we’re both kinky as hell!  😉


So, to cut the blathering and give a short answer to your question: “Fucking amazing!”

The Realdoe Slim is available from EdenFantasys in the US or Lovehoney and Sextoys.co.uk in the UK.

TMI Tuesday: Its all about the butt

1. When is the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?

Me: I don’t have a prostate. This makes me sad.
Silverhubby (SH): About 18 months ago. Prostate infection leading to a prostate biopsy. Clear of cancer, but prostate enlarged. This was not a fun experience.

2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?

Me: Two
SH: Two as well, but not the same two

3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?

Me: Not directly with my fingertips, but I’ve enjoyed putting things in SH’s ass.
SH: I’ve given myself one in the shower, and I went very weak in the knees. This is not an activity to do standing on slippery tiles.

4. Do you enjoy anal play–rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?

Me: I like to be fucked, or to wear a butt plug. Receiving rimming or fingering is okay, but not as great. I don’t like to do rimming. I rather enjoy using fingers and objects.
SH: Yes, yes, and yes, both as giver and receiver.

5. Ever had anal sex?
A. No, and I don’t want to.
B. No, but I am dying to try it.
C. Yes, but it is just okay.
D. Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
E. That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.

Me: E. I like anal better than vaginal. This is because I have a disability that makes most sexual positions uncomfortable, and anal spooning is the easiest for me. (This is not to say I don’t like vaginal – I do, very much! – just that anal is hot as hell, and doesn’t leave me sore.)
SH: D/E. I love both. Silverdrop’s pussy is silk and her ass is velvet. I have a larger than average cock and surprisingly, her ass can take me more easily than her pussy.

6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one.):
A. Finger up the ass
B. Prostate stimulator/massager
C. Penis–real or strap-on

Me: C
SH: C – Silverdrop has a collection of harnesses and dildos.

See who else is anal, on today’s TMI Tuesday!

TMI Tuesday: Movember

1. Ladies…Have you ever kissed a man with a moustache?
Gentlemen… Have you ever had a moustache?

Did you like it?

Me: My ex-husband frequently had a beard and moustache. I liked it or didn’t like it in proportion to how recently he’d smoked, unrelated to his facial hair.

Bf: I haven’t kissed a man with a moustache, but I had one when I was younger. Liked it at the time. Glad it’s gone now.

2. The say ‘putting on the beared’ means going down on a lady with a full bush. Do you prefer a bearded, trimmed or bald pussy?

Me: Trimmed, for myself. I’m not fond of the bald look on myself or in porn.

Bf: I like variety. Silverdrop alternates between shaved with a landing strip, trimmed, and full bush, and I like them all.

3. What’s your preferred style of ‘tashing on’? (snogging)

Me: I’m not a fan of full french kissing. I rather like the sweet kiss I get for goodbye and hello.

Bf: I too am not a fan of french kissing. I like the slightly open mouth series of short kisses, occasional tongue tips, especially right after she’s been sucking me.

4. When was the last time you cupped yours or anyone else’s testicles?

Me: Last night, I rubbed oil into his since he’d just had a trim below, which led on to other things…

Bf: I did a willie check just before I went out this morning. (Wallet, keys, change, phone, willie… the typical check a man does before he goes out the door.)

5. If you had a moustache what style would you be and why? Images for styles here

Me: If I could let my inner gay male slut out to play, The Trucker frames the target nicely…

Bf: The Undercover Brother

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