#WickedWednesday – So I Asked SilverHubby About Confusion

And this is what he said …


Moi, confused?

Well, confusion first struck when we forgot to get this post ready for publishing just after midnight.

There have been many moments when I have been confused in my life in a related-to-the-subject-matter-of-our-blog way, rather than generally. I guess many of these instances of confusion have been as a result of my realising something about myself that was somewhat at variance with what are considered to be society’s norms.

  • I remember being very confused for a while at 15 when I realised I liked boys as well as girls and, yes, I do mean in a wanna get hot, sweaty and physical with kind of way. That took a couple of years to come to terms with and there was some backsliding when a previous female partner freaked out when I told her I was bi.
  • Then I hit my early twenties and I again became confused when I realised I was also seriously into BDSM as a top and a dom (although I didn’t know those labels at the time).
  • I remember being very confused for a while (this was some years ago) when I realised that, with the right person/people, I would be happy to bring others into our bedroom for fun.
  • I recall being confused as all hell the first time I fell in love with someone else when I was already in a long term relationship with someone I also loved. Hint: as one of Heinlein’s characters once said, “Love doesn’t divide, it multiplies.” and “The more you love, the more you can love.”
  • I am still confused by those (few) people who cannot understand why, as a dom, I am happy and willing to let Silverdrop (my wifesub) peg me.
  • Lastly, and to end on a lighter note, I am confused as to why we are not into anal.

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About silverdrop

Silverdrop and SilverHubby are a middle aged married opposite-sex couple living in the UK. Silverdrop is gender-queer and SilverHubby is pansexual. We use this blog to talk about our sex lives (especially our fanaticism about anal and pegging), share erotic photos, and offer sex toy reviews. Our [sex isn't always great], mostly because of our health problems, but we always write honestly about it. Our kinks include BDSM, gender-play, pegging, roleplay, fantasy, and lots and lots of anal.

6 thoughts on “#WickedWednesday – So I Asked SilverHubby About Confusion

  1. Lord Raven

    the wonderful world of self discovery. Being a bi male myself it can be even more of a challenge. I hope as even more confusion arises in life you accept the challenge and work it out and find the greater thing waiting for you on the other side.

  2. Kazi G

    Those seem like milestones in hindsight, eh?
    And I can’t figure out why you’re not into anal either, so confusing!! 😉

    ~Kazi xxx

  3. Rachel Kincaid

    Oh confusion. Dear sweet confusion. I find that it frustrates me but then there is that wonderful moment of clarity when everything clicks in you mind.

    Rachel x

  4. Marie Rebelle

    Like Molly said, we are all confused at times. I think the confusion is necessary so we can learn more about ourselves, our wants, our needs. We grow when confusion turns into understanding. I know that I am still sometimes confused, but then acceptance sets in once I have worked everything out in my mind 🙂

    Rebel xox

  5. Molly

    I think many of this confusions are something that all of have felt at some point or other in relation to elements of our kinks and sexuality. The key to success though is finding people to explore with as then confusion can turn into understanding and hopefully fun and fulfilment

    Mollyxxx

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