And this is what he said …
No. Two letters. Often assumed to mean something negative. Wiki’s dictionary (Wicktionary) has a longer and more complex entry than one might expect for such a tiny word. But let’s look at what I think when I consider “No.”
- It sometimes means “Stop that right now. I am deadly serious.” And, if you carry on, you are breaking the law/an asshole/going to be looking for a new playmate, potentially. There have been rapists who have ignored the word with this meaning. Personal examples:
- One time when I’d forgotten the antibiotics Silverdrop was on meant her contraceptive pill could not be relied on and, in the heat of the moment, went to enter her without a condom on (I think we actually switched to anal) – she certainly wanted me to stop.
- Sometimes, e.g. during sex or a scene, “No!” actually means “If you stop doing that now I will kill you!” Personal examples:
- The first time I fucked another man – and he didn’t want me to stop.
- The time I went down on a woman who had never experienced cunnilingus before – she didn’t want me to stop either.
- The first time a former lover saw the bullwhip I’d been practising on and intended to use on her – she actually meant “That thing terrifies me, but if I don’t try it I will regret it forever.”
- Sometimes, when I threaten Silverdrop with a particularly mean toy (pinwheel to the soles of her feet will do this) it means “OMFG, you’re going to make me submit to you doing that to me?”
- I have heard it as often as “Yes, yes, yes, yes.” from a partner getting close to orgasm. What does it mean then? That the sensations are so strong they’re overwhelming.
- I heard it as an exclamation of surprise/shock/lust the first time the first time a former lover saw my erect cock, and she certainly didn’t mean it in a negative way. I’m not showing off, just stating a fact. (Silverdrop: You’re showing off a little. *kiss*)
Who’d have thought that such a little word could have so many nuances? I have only touched the surface here, of course. I have done my best to muddy the waters in my usual way.
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