#WickedWednesday – So I Asked SilverHubby About "No." …

And this is what he said …

No. Two letters. Often assumed to mean something negative. Wiki’s dictionary (Wicktionary) has a longer and more complex entry than one might expect for such a tiny word. But let’s look at what I think when I consider “No.”

  • It sometimes means “Stop that right now. I am deadly serious.” And, if you carry on, you are breaking the law/an asshole/going to be looking for a new playmate, potentially. There have been rapists who have ignored the word with this meaning. Personal examples:
    • One time when I’d forgotten the antibiotics Silverdrop was on meant her contraceptive pill could not be relied on and, in the heat of the moment, went to enter her without a condom on (I think we actually switched to anal) – she certainly wanted me to stop.
  • Sometimes, e.g. during sex or a scene, “No!” actually means “If you stop doing that now I will kill you!”  Personal examples:
    • The first time I fucked another man – and he didn’t want me to stop.
    • The time I went down on a woman who had never experienced cunnilingus before – she didn’t want me to stop either.
    • The first time a former lover saw the bullwhip I’d been practising on and intended to use on her – she actually meant “That thing terrifies me, but if I don’t try it I will regret it forever.”
  • Sometimes, when I threaten Silverdrop with a particularly mean toy (pinwheel to the soles of her feet will do this) it means “OMFG, you’re going to make me submit to you doing that to me?”
  • I have heard it as often as “Yes, yes, yes, yes.” from a partner getting close to orgasm. What does it mean then? That the sensations are so strong they’re overwhelming.
  • I heard it as an exclamation of surprise/shock/lust the first time the first time a former lover saw my erect cock, and she certainly didn’t mean it in a negative way. I’m not showing off, just stating a fact. (Silverdrop: You’re showing off a little. *kiss*)

Who’d have thought that such a little word could have so many nuances? I have only touched the surface here, of course. I have done my best to muddy the waters in my usual way.

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About silverdrop

Silverdrop and SilverHubby are a middle aged married opposite-sex couple living in the UK. Silverdrop is gender-queer and SilverHubby is pansexual. We use this blog to talk about our sex lives (especially our fanaticism about anal and pegging), share erotic photos, and offer sex toy reviews. Our [sex isn't always great], mostly because of our health problems, but we always write honestly about it. Our kinks include BDSM, gender-play, pegging, roleplay, fantasy, and lots and lots of anal.

8 thoughts on “#WickedWednesday – So I Asked SilverHubby About "No." …

  1. spacebunnykink

    It’s one of those words that holds a lot of meaning that’s for sure. Very cool of SilverHubby to share all his experiences with us. Even if he did show off a bit 🙂

  2. Molly

    It is such a complicated no, no wonder we have such a problem with it within everyday life and society.


  3. Lord Raven

    always love seeing your perspective on things sir. Indeed it is a very interesting word that carries so many different usages. Thank you for sharing.

  4. John D Stories

    I’ve never quite understood the “yes yes yes yes” either; I really don’t need encouragement at that point, given what’s gone on the previous few minutes/hours 🙂

    I am curious now as to the pinwheel on the soles of the feet.

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