So, it’s been a while since we participated in TMI Tuesday, but this week’s questions piqued our interest.
1. Do you believe in marriage?
Silverdrop (SD): Sort of? I know many couples with good marriages, and some couples with dreadful marriages who are still married because it’s a legal commitment and would be more trouble to exit than an informal arrangement. I think it’s probably good for society to have a way to recognize family units, but I don’t see why it should be such a big deal about what genitalia the wedding participants happen to have, or why there should be crazy amounts of money spent.
SilverHubby (SH): Yes and no. SD and I are married and both have been before. However, neither of us believes that marriage is necessary for a healthy and happy long term relationship. I believe that marriage is right if it is ok both for you and your intended. Marrying SD didn’t make me love SD any more, or want to spend the rest of my life with her any more than I already did. However, I do like the symbolism of the ring (we both wear plain white gold wedding bands) on my finger. I am proud that SD is my wife and the ring is one of the ways I choose to symbolise that.
2. Have you ever proposed marriage or been proposed to marry? What happened?
SD: Twice for me. The first time, I was young and stupid and in love. The second time, less young, less stupid, but even more in love. It is working out very well.
SH: I have proposed marriage twice in my life. The first time because I felt I had to. The second time because I wanted to. Also, SD proposed to me. I am now probably going to get into trouble because I cannot for the life of me remember which one of us proposed first. It seems to have turned out well. 🙂
3. What would be your dream way of proposing marriage?
SD: I would never want a big public proposal. Talk about being put on the spot. Ugh!
SH: I don’t go for the ‘big thing’ style of doing stuff like this. No jetting off to exotic luxury islands, in a gondola in Venice for example. We both show our love every single day in a multitude of different little ways. That’s kinda how our proposing to each other happened. So, no big show, but it meant (and means) an awful lot to both of us.
4. What would be your nightmarish way of proposing marriage?
SD: The big tv jumboscreen one. *shudders*
SH: Again, location is irrelevant. My nightmare would be a proposal that wasn’t felt from
the heart of my bottom bottom of my heart. My proposal to my first wife was like that – I didn’t really want to marry her, nor she me, I suspect.
5. Mainstream society has engagement rings; in your opinion, what token should be given to signify engagement?
SD: A flower? I dunno. I don’t think engagement needs a token.
SH: I think it should be something deep and meaningful to the people involved. Although I go for the ring thing as well. In our case, we were bonded by words, deeds, emotions and symbols like a third earring for SD long before we actually got married.
6. What do you think would have happened to cause someone to have “Will you marry me?” on the back of their caravan?
SD: I imagine there aren’t enough caravan based dating websites, and the poor machine got lonely.
SH: Perhaps they didn’t know it was there? 😉
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