Daily Archives: 04/09/2013

#WickedWednesday – Opinion


Wikipedia has this to say:

In general, an opinion is a judgment, viewpoint, or statement about matters commonly considered to be subjective, i.e. based on that which is less than absolutely certain, and is the result of emotion or interpretation of facts. What distinguishes fact from opinion is that facts are verifiable, i.e. can be objectively proven to have occurred.

So I asked SilverHubby to give his opinion on opinion. And this is what he said…

Opinions, eh? Everybody has them and some people are louder and more forceful than others about voicing them. It is important to remember that opinions are often based on emotions and not facts.

I, too, have opinions, although they have changed often over the years. I shall be 53 years old in a few weeks time. As a young man, many of my opinions were very strongly held and, truth be told, somewhat inflexible. As a middle-aged man, I find that I usually listen to other people and their opinions before voicing mine. This is so I can think about what they have said and compare it against what I feel on a subject. I don’t always change my opinion, but the other person, although they may not know it, can be sure that I listened to them and thought about what they had to say.

Some examples…

As a young man, it was my opinion/belief that marriage was for life. This was before my first marriage. I am now in my second marriage and deliriously (yes, it’s almost embarrassing) happy with Silverdrop. People change over the years. Often, you can change together, or at least happily accommodate each others changes. But sometimes you grow apart. It isn’t even anybody’s fault often. Then, in my older and wiser *snort* opinion, it is best to part ways.

Although it is hard to believe now when you look at me (I am disabled), I used to be an athlete. While in the Air Force I played badminton, sailed and enjoyed cross-country running. It was then my opinion that losing the body that enabled me to do all this fun stuff would be the end of the world. Now, with a body in variable but constant pain, I now know that not to be true. My current opinion is that your life is as good as you choose to make it. It has nothing to do with possessions, salary, career etc.

I used to think, and this was definitely opinion, that what other people thought of me was more important than pretty much anything else in my life. I got this from my parent, for whom it is still true so far as I know. Now, while I do care to some extent what others think of me, I also care what I think of me. Can I look myself in the eye in the mirror? Have I been completely honest with myself? Hmm, am I making any sense here?

Anyway, those are some of my opinions. What are yours?

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