#WickedWednesday – Being a Good Girl vs. Being Good. Silverhubby’s Thoughts.

Good girls are bad girls who never got caught.

Ignore the bad grammar.

This may be the first time wither of us have drawn a blank when faced with the Wicked Wednesday prompt, which this week was to write a piece about a man who was stood up. SH never has been, which didn’t help. Anyway, we went off on a riff of our own, with something that happened here a few days ago.


A few days ago, Silverdrop was sassing me over something or other, blow jobs, I think. Anyway, I asked her if she was going to be good. She replied “Of course, I’m always a good girl.”

This got me thinking – yes, that explains the burning smell you just noticed. To me and, I think, Silverdrop, there is a difference between being good, and being a good girl. By the standards of some sections of society (and not just the conservative ones) Silverdrop is a very, very bad girl. She’s a slut (and I mean that in a 100% positive and complimentary way). She’s open about her sexuality, libido, desires etc. Most of her fantasies are not monogamous/missionary position/after dark with the lights out (thankfully). I love her for all this.

So far as I am concerned, she is never more of a good girl than when she’s being what some would consider very, very bad. After we have played, which often involves some very explicit talk (mostly from me), that some would consider debasing, I always say two things to her: “You’re a good girl.” and “It’s OK.” This has become something of a ritual for us, and we both find it comforting and reassuring.

Being good is more day to day, more to do with general behaviour and not the kink and our dynamic. If I ask her to be a good girl, she knows I’m looking for a kink-based reaction e.g. her dropping her underwear and laying across my knees. If I call her a good girl, it is because I am happy with something she has said/done/endured/accepted from me as a sadistic dom. When I ask her to be good, it might be because I need to get some paperwork done, or a phone call and, for once, I need her to not actively be the sassy sub that she is (and that I love her for).

Silverdrop is a good girl. She can also be good.

So, have I once again muddied the waters with my rambling? Will Rebel forgive me for ignoring her prompt?


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About silverdrop

Silverdrop and SilverHubby are a middle aged married opposite-sex couple living in the UK. Silverdrop is gender-queer and SilverHubby is pansexual. We use this blog to talk about our sex lives (especially our fanaticism about anal and pegging), share erotic photos, and offer sex toy reviews. Our [sex isn’t always great], mostly because of our health problems, but we always write honestly about it. Our kinks include BDSM, gender-play, pegging, roleplay, fantasy, and lots and lots of anal.

7 thoughts on “#WickedWednesday – Being a Good Girl vs. Being Good. Silverhubby’s Thoughts.

  1. KaziG

    No one ever said you *had* to follow the prompt! I like that you went off on your own tangent.
    And I am very very good at being baaaaaad 😉

    ~Kazi xxx

  2. John

    I try hard not to be a “good boy”; my wife does say it to wind me up but i think it sounds like I am a dog. ;(

  3. Molly

    I don’t think you have muddied the waters at all, in fact I think you have described ‘good girl’ and being good perfectly. I can truly identify with what you have written here


  4. Marie Rebelle

    These are some interesting thoughts and made me think about myself – when am I good and when am I a good girl. Thanks for sharing!

    And of course you are forgiven 😉

    Rebel xox

  5. Rayne Millaray

    I totally get where you’re coming from and can relate. M really only calls me a “good girl” when he’s fucking me, or talking about fucking me, or something. It actually used to be a point of contention because, damn it, I’m a smart ass, but I’m good most of the time! Lol.

    Thanks for the post!

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