#WickedWednesday – Secret Pleasures and a Lifeline to the Outside World.

A woman's profile in silhouette showing a finger to the lips in the "shh!" gesture.

 As usual on WIckedWednesday, I asked SilverHubby for his thoughts, and this is what he said:

This blog is one of our secret pleasures.

Seems obvious, doesn’t it? But it isn’t just for the obvious reason. Many of us who write sex blogs feel that this is the one place where we can be open about our sex lives, and that is certainly true for us too. We cannot be open about our kink with the people we interact with in the 3D world, because we value our privacy and, anyway, it would not do to involve others non-consensually in our sex life. Whether that’s what we do simply by having this blog is a debate for another day. So it’s great that we can be open here and we often write about the bad stuff, as well as the good. It’s fair to say that we’re as honest and open as we feel comfortable with here.

I suspect many sex bloggers could have written something similar to the above paragraph. Now for the personal bit.

We have often mentioned that we are both disabled and try and factor this in to our toy tests and reviews. But we haven’t yet told our dear and loyal reader (yes, there is only one *grins*) the true extent of this, and how it affects our ability to interact with the kinky community in 3D.

I walk, slowly and painfully, with a stick. I have chronic osteo-arthritis in pretty much every joint in my body. You wouldn’t think it to look at me now, but I used to be an athlete in the Air Force – cross-country running, sailing, hill walking, badminton etc. Now, I can make it out to the car, followed by a rest.

My beloved Silverdrop has fibromyalgia and is bed-bound. She can, slowly and carefully, often with my assistance, get around our modest home. Farther than that and she is in a wheelchair. Her condition is worsened by sitting upright, and she tires very easily.

So between our two conditions, even though we have a shiny new car, we don’t actually get out of the house much aside from medical appointments (of which there are many). It also makes travelling a huge issue, which needs careful planning. Silverdrop has been unable to work for some years. I work from home to the degree that I can in between caring for my love.

I have not written this for sympathy, but to raise another issue. We would love to meet many of you, attend kinky events, find a wheelchair accessible dungeon within reach etc. Heck, we are monogamish, genderqueer, pansexual (to name a few) and are keen to explore opportunities for friendship/play/more with others but worry our disabilities, need to cancel at short notice sometimes, and difficulty travelling will be insurmountable obstacles.

I guess this post hasn’t been very wicked, has it? But it was written from the heart. This has not been a pity fest. We love our lives, and each other. It’s just hard not to wish that some things were a little different. This blog is our lifeline to the outside world and other kinksters, and we value it, and the input from our readers, immensely.

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About silverdrop

Silverdrop and SilverHubby are a middle aged married opposite-sex couple living in the UK. Silverdrop is gender-queer and SilverHubby is pansexual. We use this blog to talk about our sex lives (especially our fanaticism about anal and pegging), share erotic photos, and offer sex toy reviews. Our [sex isn't always great], mostly because of our health problems, but we always write honestly about it. Our kinks include BDSM, gender-play, pegging, roleplay, fantasy, and lots and lots of anal.

44 thoughts on “#WickedWednesday – Secret Pleasures and a Lifeline to the Outside World.

  1. Modesty Ablaze

    A wonderful picture . . . but even more wonderful, and touching, words.
    Sometimes pictures can say so much without being necessarily obvious and, well, explicit. But this image is just so in-keeping, not just with your first paragraph, but in the context of the whole post.
    Really wonderful to read, inspiring, loving . . . and yes actually explicit and wicked in every sense.
    I have read, and gathered the briefest of things you mention here, from some of your earlier posts . . . but this is just a complete inspiration and motivation to all of us.
    I wish you lots of continuing love and kinkness . . . Xxx – K

  2. Stranded

    Perhaps, as you mention, not really a secret. The details, however, are not always easy to share. Having fibromyalgia in my family, I have some understanding of your situation. Thanks for sharing this.

    Stranded

  3. Marie Rebelle

    Like Stranded said, the details may not be easy to share at all, but thank you so much for doing so. I have immense respect for both of you, because you are always spreading the love, always shining through your blog, no matter the circumstances you are in!

    Rebel xox

  4. Heaven

    Well I appreciate everything you share with us. I too feel comfortable being able to share amongst some awesome bloggers that I would never share in the real world.

  5. Mia

    What a wonderful post you have here. Inspirational to all of us bloggers that despite difficulties we can shine through in a community that is supportive and caring.

    You never know through this amazing medium of blogging friendships that may work for you might be developed into friendships with benefits that will work for you and your situation.

    Love you and your blog. Thank you for sharing with us all.

    ~Mia~ xx

  6. John

    It’s good that you have the blog and an online community with whom to interact; social communication and community are often overlooked as necessities in life, but humans are social creatures and the desire to interact is instinctive and essential.

    Thanks for sharing 😉

    Take care,
    John

  7. Lord Raven

    Wow, just wow. you two are such a wonderful couple and I adore the depth and realness of what you both share with us. Thank you for sharing, we both really enjoy reading your posts.

  8. The Grand Master T.

    There is no such thing as perfection, But there is a perfection of honesty. You Silvers are.

  9. Rayne Millaray

    That settles it. If I ever win the lottery, I’m building a handicapable accessible dungeon complete with kinky personal care aids to help with whatever people need help with. ~nods~

    Thanks for sharing this. You guys are amazing.

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