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Wicked Wednesday: Nipples – the ones that get left out.

I am a breast man. That was something of an understatement. I have no preference for size, shape, firmness, perkiness, sagginess, stretch marks, nipple size and colour etc. I love breasts in all the love shapes and sizes they come in.

However, I have so far found that I don’t particularly care for artificially enhanced breasts. I only sampled a few, but they all felt well, artificial. Sorry to those of you who have implants if I have just offended you – nothing personal.

But on to nipples. Love them. Silverdrop’s are lovely.

 

It was chilly, fortunately.

It was chilly, fortunately.

But now, as is usual when I tackle Wicked Wednesday, I shall digress…

I like my nipples too. They are extremely sensitive. Having them licked, sucked and nibbled can tip me over the edge into orgasm when, for example, I am masturbating. Silverdrop knows this and err, obliges me often. She doesn’t even mind that I have a hairy chest. Actually, I have a hairy pretty much everything – except my pubes, which are often shaved during the summer, and kept trimmed short in winter. I have more than once been called a TeddyBearDom, and I’m not sure how I feel about that. *grins*

My first wife told me I was “Gay!” (if only she knew) when I mentioned wanting my nipples stimulated sometimes during sex. *sigh* Ah well.

I cannot believe I am the only man who likes his nipples played with. So come on guys, do any of you enjoy this form of play?

 

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The female blogger Silverdrop, shown from shoulders to waist, nude, with her long brown hair covering her breasts.

Our Contraception Journey Part 8: Mirena IUS

Mirena IntraUterine System

Part 8 of a weekly series. We’ve been through nearly every available contraception method in our efforts to find the right solution for us. This week, we consider the Mirena IntraUterine System.

A model of a human uterus with a Mirena Intrauterine system in place.

This is not the same IUD I tried before.

After deciding that female sterilisation was probably our only solution, we went back to the Family Planning Clinic for one last, desperate hope that there was something available that wouldn’t require surgery.

We took a long printout of everything we’ve tried before and why it hasn’t worked for us. The nurse practitioner who spoke to us spent quite a while looking over it, and then said, “I think there is one thing you may have overlooked.”

At this point, we were rather surprised – we had hoped there was something, but we’d done so much research, we didn’t know how it was possible that we could have missed anything. And then she asked us what we knew about the Mirena – an intrauterine device with hormones.

My first question was, “Would that work for me when I’ve had problems with an IUD before?” and before she could answer “And what about all the problems I’ve had with hormonal contraception?”

She explained the hormone issue first. The hormone would be the same hormone used in the contraceptive patch, implant, or pill, but because it’s being released locally within the uterus, rather than systemically, the dosage is much lower. The migraines and libido problems would hopefully not occur, or would occur to a more manageable degree.

As for the second question, it turns out this IUD is built completely differently than the one I used before. I had looked at Mirena and thought ‘This has all the problems I had before, plus hormones? NO THANKS!’ But the Paraguard IUD that I used before worked by releasing copper into the uterus which makes the uterus hostile to sperm. It can also act as an irritant to the uterine lining, which is probably what caused me a low level of daily bleeding rather than a monthly period.

Mirena, however, has no copper. It works by releasing progestogen, thinning the uterine lining to prevent implantation and thickening cervical mucous to make it more difficult for sperm to enter the uterus. The nurse explained to me that rather than causing bleeding, the way the Paraguard IUD does, the Mirena often causes periods to diminish or stop completely.

We were told that if this doesn’t work for us, then we really do have no other options other than female sterilisation. The nurse asked if we wanted to go home and discuss it first, and I said, “No. I want to try this. How soon can we get it inserted?” She made us an appointment for the following week, and warned us not to have vaginal sex at all before then, even with condoms, just to be absolutely sure there’s no pregnancy.

A week later, we turned up for our appointment. I don’t know what it is about the NHS, but even though stirrups are standard practice in the US for gynaecological exams, I’ve never yet seen them used over here. What’s up with that? Are stirrups too expensive or something? It certainly would have been more comfortable if I’d had them.

It wasn’t quite as painful as I remembered from the last time. After cranking me open with the speculum, the nurse did use a local anaesthesia, though it wasn’t nearly as anaesthetic as I would have liked. I couldn’t really see what he was doing, but there seemed to be lots of things entering and exiting at various times. There were two really painful moments. One was when something went up into the cervix. That was not fun. Then there was some poking around in my uterus, which was like menstrual cramps on steroids and carrying a switchblade. Okay, I’ve never been pregnant, never had endometriosis, and never had uterine fibroids, so I am SO not qualified to whine about uterine pain. But it was not pleasant.

Finally he was done, but it still took a while to get everything inside swabbed up again and the speculum removed. I put a pad in when I dressed, but there was no obvious bleeding. Just lots of cramping. I’m home now, with a hot water bottle on my abdomen, which feels nice.

Aftercare instructions are these: No unprotected sex for 7 days, no tampons for 2 weeks, followup appointment in 6 weeks to check placement, self-check of the strings each month, and replace it in 5 years. Assuming it works for me, and it doesn’t have to come out early.

I just really really hope Mirena is finally the contraception option that will work for us. Because the next stop after this is the operating table.

Find out how it went in Part 9


To be continued…

Our Contraception Journey Part 1: Why is Contraception so Hard?
Our Contraception Journey Part 2: Sterilisation
Our Contraception Journey Part 3: Vasectomy Complications
Our Contraception Journey Part 4: Cerazette
Our Contraception Journey Part 5: Further Vasectomy Complications
Our Contraception Journey Part 6: Cerazette Complications
Our Contraception Journey Part 7: Female Sterilisation

The female blogger Silverdrop, shown from shoulders to waist, nude, with her long brown hair covering her breasts.

Sinful Sunday – How Do I Blog?

Well, funny you should ask.

SilverHubby took this picture of me yesterday. I was editing a blog post moments before. He sometimes gets distracted when I’m like this. He says it makes him have ‘sinful’ thoughts.  I wonder why?  😉

Next step: find good RAW editing software that doesn't cost the Earth.

Next step: find good RAW editing software that doesn’t cost the Earth.

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SilverHubby and Silverdrop

Tantus – My, aren’t we gonna have some fun?

So, Tantus invited us to sign up as an affiliate and of course we jumped at the chance as we’re huge fans. They asked us what toy we’d like as our first review item and we asked for the Tantus Stroker XL for SilverDom.

We received a parcel today. The box was rather larger than we were expecting. Here are the contents.

Yeharrgh!

Yeharrgh!

So, what do we have here? Starting lower left, going clockwise:

We don’t quite know what to say, except “Thankyou!” of course. We are going to have all kinds of fun reviewing these items. Watch this space.

 

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Boobday – Blue

The theme for this week’s Boobday is “Blue.”

This would seem to cover them it, or not.

Taken in the cold, blue winter light.

Taken in the cold, blue winter light.

This is our first published post using the DSLR donated by the amazingly generous John D Stories. Picture taken by SilverDom. More practice needed yet, but still way better than our old camera could have produced in low light with no flash.

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The female blogger Silverdrop, shown from shoulders to waist, nude, with her long brown hair covering her breasts.

How I Responded

Continued from here.

You didn’t just say “Well I am bisexual, you know!” You also mentioned B, your male lover, and said you and he had experimented together. (I was at work, so you didn’t go into more detail than that.)

I had no idea you were waiting on tenterhooks for my response, or that you wanted reassurance, or anything like that. So my response was rather brief.

“That is so fucking hot!”

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Wicked Wednesday – I Hope it Goes Better This Time

Have you any idea how hard it is to find a non-church related image of confession?

Have you any idea how hard it is to find a non-church related image of confession?

This was actually the second time I had made this confession, although it was the first time I had confessed it to you, my Silverdrop.

Twenty years ago, I tried to tell my first wife that one of my first sex partners was another boy (I say boy because I was 15, he was 16). She did not take it well. I don’t mean she was shocked in a “Oh, how do I deal with this?” kind of way. I mean she went completely apeshit over it. Shouting and screaming, accusing me of lying. Fun stuff like that. I shut up. We both pretended it never happened. Except during the divorce years later, when she accused me of being gay and that was why I must be leaving her.

I knew I was going to tell you about my sexuality very early on in our relationship. Back then, I still considered myself bisexual – I now know myself to be pansexual. Anyway… I was very nervous about telling you. I think I would have been nervous anyway, but it was made much worse by my first wife’s reaction to it.

I didn’t plan it – it came out entirely naturally in a conversation – on ICQ I think. I don’t remember exactly what we were talking about, but it was something to do with what we were attracted to. I said “Well I am bisexual, you know!”

I seem to remember you were at work at the time. Something happened in the office that meant you couldn’t respond immediately. In fact, it was some minutes before you responded. It felt like several hours. I briefly, feared the worst.

I think I shall let you tell our dear reader (there is just the one) what your response was.

 

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Our Contraception Journey Part 7: Female Sterilisation

Female Sterilisation

Part 7 of a weekly series. We’ve been through nearly every available contraception method in our efforts to find the right solution for us.

A diagram of the female reproductive system, as seen in a side view cross section.After discovering that I needed to stop using Cerazette, we went back to the NHS’s list of possible birth control methods. SilverHubby has used the diaphragm before with a former partner and already knew that he hated it. In fact, the words he used were ‘I’d rather use condoms’. I’d previously had a bad reaction to spermicidal jelly, a necessary when using the diaphragm or cervical cap, which further eliminated it as a choice. We went over the list again and again, trying to find something we could live with.

Barrier Methods

  • caps – Requires spermicidal jelly.
  • condoms (female) – Expensive and not widely available.
  • condoms (male) – Too much friction for me. Uncomfortable for him.
  • diaphragms – Requires spermicidal jelly. Hated by SilverHubby.

Hormonal Methods

Intrauterine

You Have Got to be Kidding Me

Permanent Sterilisation

The various hormonal methods were rejected since they were all variations of what I’d already tried. Hormones of any sort are going to fuck with my libido or cause migraines or both. Barrier methods are a pain in the ass. I had a bad reaction to the IUD some years back and had to have it removed after only six months. Natural Family Planning, oh my god no, no, no, a million times no. Male sterilisation has already been ruled out.

So that leaves female sterilisation. On the one hand, I really hated the idea of being operated on. On the other hand, if I take the hit now, then we won’t ever have to deal with the whole contraception issue again.

Currently, in the UK, there are two methods of female sterilisation. The first is the standard tubal ligation, in which the fallopian tubes are cut, stitched, or clipped in some way to prevent an egg from reaching the uterus. The other is a non-surgical method called Essure, in which implants are placed inside each tube, causing scar tissue to form and eventually fully block the fallopian tubes.

At first, I really liked the Essure idea, because of the ‘non-surgical’ part of the description. Then it hit the news recently that Erin Brockovich is campaigning against Essure because of the problems some women are having with it. I went to that site and read the stories, and while some of them didn’t seem applicable – one woman, for example, was already pregnant when she had Essure put in. She carried the child to term, but sometime during the pregnancy or recovery the implants perforated the fallopian tubes – it did remind me that I’d be putting something inside my body that might cause a bad reaction, like when the IUD made me bleed constantly. In the end, we learned there are no doctors trained in the Essure procedure in my region, which eliminated it as a possibility.

I read everything I could find about female sterilisation, particularly personal stories, and finally decided it was probably the best decision for us. So we made another appointment with the Family Planning clinic to discuss it.


To be continued…

Our Contraception Journey Part 1: Why is Contraception so Hard?
Our Contraception Journey Part 2: Sterilisation
Our Contraception Journey Part 3: Vasectomy Complications
Our Contraception Journey Part 4: Cerazette
Our Contraception Journey Part 5: Further Vasectomy Complications
Our Contraception Journey Part 6: Cerazette Complications