Monthly Archives: May 2014

Boobday: Mirror

It’s Friday. Yay! That means it’s Boobday. Double yay!

I don’t usually like soft focus, but I love how the reflection of my love’s breast almost replaces her actual breast. Then there’s her hair of course.  🙂

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What can you see in your mirror?

What can you see in your mirror?

 

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SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

WickedWednesday: Trigger Warnings, a Post From the Heart

WickedWednesday again. Unusually, I found it easy to come up with my response this week. I was greatly influenced by Molly’s, which is well thought out.

I should start out by stating that I am generally against mandatory trigger warnings, whether it be on text books, or anything else. I feel quite strongly that there is a continuum, with “Oh, are we OK with this?” at one end, and book burning at the other (sometimes, as history shows us, by people burning/gassing/disappearing etc.).

Mandatory warnings are along that continuum.

But, despite the continuum, my stating that I am against mandatory trigger warnings is a little black and white. Allow me to explain.

I was bullied at school. Bullied to the point where there were days I was scared, really scared, to go.

People who know me currently find this difficult to believe, because today I am a confident person who is happy to lead if that is required. It took years in Sea Cadets as a teenager, followed by more in the Royal Air Force, to change me.

I went to high school in the 1970s. Anybody remember The Goodies? They were hugely popular in the UK at that time. They recorded a song, Funky Gibbon. The school bullies thought it a great wheeze to make the weak perform that for them. This was just one of the things they inflicted on those they perceived as being weak. All this at a time when there was no point reporting the bullies because the official response was “Just ignore them and they’ll stop and/or go away.”. They didn’t.

I’ve forgiven the bullies, but I don’t forget. I sometimes wonder whether they have kids, and how they would react if they were bullied. Would they have the tools to help their kids? I fear the worst. Do they ever think about the bullying they did? I don’t know. Fuck ’em.

Presumably as a result of my being bullied, I do not like books/movies/TV shows that feature it. A recent example is Silverdrop persuading me to watch the general greatness that is the TV series from a few years ago: Jekyll. This series is wonderful, and masterfully written by Steven Moffat (Doctor Who writer and producer). However, a couple of the episodes feature bullying and made me feel very uncomfortable. I mostly enjoyed watching it, but have no desire to watch again.

But, and it is a big but: I have no desire to put trigger warnings on the DVD case and I absolutely do no want them banned.

These days, I wouldn’t hesitate to step in if I witnessed bullying. How times have changed for me.

Like so many moral issues, the one of trigger warnings is not black and white – there are many shades of grey and opinions regarding them. Now you know mine.

 

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SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

SinfulSunday: Chillin’ out

SinfulSunday time again. MoreMeninSinfulSunday time again.

This is an unused picture taken during The February Photo Madness Insanity When will it end what am I going to post today? Fest that was plotted instigated inflicted upon us with glee organised by Molly.

I am quite relaxed here, apart from the unnatural positioning of the hand that is trying to hide the remote shutter release,

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Chillin'

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Sinful Sunday

SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

WickedWednesday: All Things Considered

WickedWednesday time again.

Consider(ing).

Hmm.

  • Considering the many obstacles (financial and geographical) to us getting together, we’ve done pretty well. It’s been 12 years now.
  • Considering how we’ve both gone from healthy to varying degrees of completely fucked (to use a technical term), we’ve done pretty well.
  • Considering the difference in our ages, which our families both worried about, we’ve done pretty well.
  • Considering our physical limitations, we have one helluva great sex life.
  • Considering we’re physically together 24/7, we’re doing pretty well. We’ve seen some couples suffer negatively from being together too much of the time. That hasn’t happened to us.
  • Considering you are mostly bed bound, we have some great dates at art galleries and similar.
  • Considering we can’t get out much, we seem to be making some kinky friends online. All things considered, we’d like to meet some of them. Someday. Somehow.
  • Considering I don’t get out much, I have still found some sexy women to flirt with. No men or other relevant LGBTQ folks so far though.  🙁  (I’m pansexual, dear reader)

So, all things considered, yay us!

 

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E[lust] #58

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Welcome to Elust #58

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Do NOT take my rapeplay fantasy away from me!

Pulp Fiction

“O” is for Outlaw No More

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

The Second Letter

The Wake

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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SinfulSunday: Red Panties and a surprise

SinfulSunday is upon us again. It’s been a busy week but, somewhat fortunately, I had a left over photograph from our Boobday shoot. A rather naughty pic that you can find here (this Blog) and here (Hy’s Blog, with other lovely breasts).

Silverdrop has a great butt, don’t you think?

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I have a dildo, and I know how to use it.

I have a dildo, and I know how to use it.

 

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Sinful Sunday

BoobDay: Panties

We were bouncing ideas off each other over what to do with this week’s Boobday prompt of “panties”. Then we had a look at Hy’s blog. One of the pics on this post totally inspired us.

We hope you like it. We hope Hy and her TN like it too.

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Impressive, eh?

Impressive, eh?

PS. Sorry we missed Boobday last week.

 

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adissolutelifemeans.com/boobday/

SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

WickedWednesday: Going Dutch (or not)

WickedWednesday is all about going Dutch. Hmm.

Brain not gaining traction with this one. Hmm.

Ah!

Something like twenty years ago, before I met Silverdrop but was still married to my first wife, I had an affair with B. We were on different continents and, although I travelled regularly on business, we could not get together physically more than 2-3 times a year. Those times were memorable, not least because she taught me that the one thing that (by this stage anyway) kept me in my marriage was complete bollocks i.e. that other women would not find me attractive.

B and I were very different people though. We were 100% compatible sexually, but our lives, politics, dreams etc. were very different. So I think we both understood that it couldn’t last. But we loved each other. A small part of me will always love her – I wonder whether she feels the same way?

Some of you will remember the dot.com implosion that happened in Silicon Valley back in 2000 and beyond. I was one of many caught up in that. I stopped off at B’s for a long weekend on my way back to the UK after an unsuccessful job hunting trip. We went out to dinner one night, gently insisting that she was paying. I tried to insist that we would pay half each – going Dutch. But, because she knew I was between contracts, she insisted that the meal was on her. She never raised her voice. She was a sub, and my collared sub when we were together, but she had a mind of her own (thankfully – I can’t imagine being with someone who doesn’t), and would not be persuaded.

So I gave in gracefully, and beat her for it later.  🙂

So I guess this ramble through my memories is actually about not going Dutch. I wonder whether Rebel will forgive me?

 

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SilverHubby and Silverdrop

SinfulSunday: Strap or Pack Friday.

Is it SinfulSunday already?

It is no secret that I am pansexual and Silverdrop is genderqueer.

Around here, we celebrate Strap or Pack Friday every week we can. Silverdrop has an impressive selection of packer cocks and dildos (I did mention we like pegging too, didn’t I?).

Here’s a picture I grabbed in haste on my iPhone this Friday afternoon, as Silverdrop clambered into bed. Yes, it’s shot in haste into backlight, but I rather like the way it has captured the fine hairs on her left thigh.

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It rides a little high, but I love the visual.

It rides a little high, but I love the visual.

 

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Sinful Sunday

SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

WickedWednesday: A Chance Not Taken

I wrote this yesterday, then forgot to post it. Oops!

 

There once was a chance I didn’t take.

It was 30 years ago. We’d been together just a few months when our youth and lack of knowledge meant you got pregnant. Our relationship, we both sort of knew, had run its course before then. The sex was pretty great back then, but we had nothing else in common to keep us together. Opposites do not always attract – at least not in the long term. But I was serving in the forces at the time and the whole honour and duty thing also extended to cover situations like this. I didn’t even dream of leaving you.

Our relationship got worse and worse and then the sex stopped, but we both hung on – perhaps out of stubbornness. Some months after our baby was born, we had a blazing row over something or other and you tried to pack your bags and walk out. I stopped you, fool that I was. We were neither of us happy but the baby held us together at some level.

So that was the chance I didn’t take. My life would have been very different had I let you go. But, perhaps I would never then have met Silverdrop these many years later. So, honestly, I don’t quite know whether to regret that chance not taken, or not.

 

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