Hailing Frequencies Open…

SilverHubby shown at the waist, clothed, his hands holding a collar.

Back in September, it was with regret that we announced that this blog was going on hiatus. Various things, mostly health-related, were severely interfering with our ability to keep blogging.

Well, the health stuff hasn’t gone away. It has, if anything, got worse, with my recent diagnosis of fibromyalgia.

But we’ve been doing some BDSM stuff during this time too. We are both disabled to varying degrees – SIlverdrop is in a wheelchair. Our disabilities were (and are still) making it very difficult to get back to the 24/7 BDSM dynamic we once enjoyed and loved. But we wanted to see what we could do, not what we couldn’t.

Our old written contract, written twelve-ish years ago when we were both relatively fit and healthy,  was more or less completely invalidated as our health deteriorated, so we wanted to see if we could work out a new contract that would focus primarily on what we still could do. We looked on the Interwebz to see what other disabled people were doing and you know what? There is almost no literature out there!

So we’ve thrashed out (pun semi-intentional) a new contract and are still working hard at it. We may even publish it somewhere soon.

Here, as a teaser, is something we just added to it:-


Something to remember when you do, or think about doing, any of these things:

  • Bring your collar to me
  • Bring a toy to me
  • Initiate sex
  • Anything related to our BDSM dynamic

None of the above constitute ‘topping from the bottom’. They are you letting me know, in a direct yet submissive way, that you are able for some sort of interaction. This can range from full sex at one end of the spectrum, to a symbolic spanking while collared at the other.


Wanna see more?

Oh! Happy New Year to you all.


12 thoughts on “Hailing Frequencies Open…

  1. Heaven

    Happy belated New Year, sorry to hear that health issues are still not improving. I hope you get well and glad to hear you are doing something things even if minimal.

  2. Flip

    Really good to see you back posting, you’ve been missed 🙂
    I know something of the restrictions health places upon the D/s & in a more broad sense BDSM play, and I find myself resenting it greatly. However, I have to remember that it;s not just me it affects, but Sir too, and I know he’d feel awful if he did anything which set off a flare up because I’d not communicated how I was truly feeling to him…..so we play when we can, and just enjoy being with each other when we can’t x

  3. Jade

    So happy to see a post from you in my inbox!
    I understand how significantly health issues can affect a BDSM dynamic. We’ve been dealing with some of our own, tho nothing at all on the scale you have. I wish you health and happiness in this new year, and do hope you will find time to tell us about it, even once in awhile.


    1. SilverHubby Post author

      Hey there – missed you, although we do drop in on your blog from time to time. It’ll mostly be me posting, as Silverdrop’s health has weakened her such that she has to ration the energy ‘spoons’ she does have.

      Hope you’re doing OK too.

  4. Mia

    Yeah!! Hello lovely people! Looking forward to seeing more! I’ve been on and enforced hiatus also but hoping to get back to it again soon 😉

    ~Mia~ xx

  5. Stella

    So glad see a new post from you both. Health has a way of changing things we may not be ready to have change. Forge ahead, find your own way. Maybe by posting you can help others realize there is still much to the D/s dynamic regardless of physical capabilities.


    1. SilverHubby Post author

      That is our intention. We will soon be publishing our contract, as it is written (obviously) for two kinky disabled people.

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