WickedWednesday: Necessary

It’s been a while since I participated in Wicked Wednesday. I wonder if Marie will be surprised? It is her prompt ‘Necessary’ that err, prompted me to come back.

It has become necessary, for my own peace of mind and sense of honesty, for me to be 100% open about the part of my body that I don’t like. No, not my cock (which Silverdrop insisted I leave in the shot)!

My belly. Back in the Air Force and before, I was something of an athlete – badminton, running, sailing etc. – and had the body that went with it. In 1999 I almost died from a previously undetected abdominal condition. The resultant surgery saved my life. Post-op infection destroyed a lot of my abdominal muscles – the six pack. Then osteoarthritis kicked in and made me less and less mobile.

This is what I am left with. It is also one of the reasons why Silverdrop and I are so body-positive.  I hope this might encourage others with body image issues to post.

It ain’t pretty, but it’s all mine.

I have sometimes posed/cropped/edited this part of me out of images. Or a pic of me on my back, which minimises things.That stops. Now.

And I mean it this time.


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34 thoughts on “WickedWednesday: Necessary

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  9. eye

    I love this post and the steady determination behind it to bring all of you into play not just the parts that seem acceptable. This is an important part of my own journey and I am so grateful to have people like you alongside on the same path.

  10. mariasibylla

    Thank you for writing this! I am guilty of editing to feature my favorite bits as well. While I do think it’s OK to do that, I think there is much to learn and to be gained from pushing out own boundaries and posting things that make us uncomfortable. Good on you!

  11. Bee

    Ok…so how did I miss this post?!

    We’re all guilty of showing our best, most flattering angles. It takes strength to post the ‘real’ us. I’ve done it in the past, it’s scary to reveal your vulnerabilities. We often see body positivity as a feminist issue, thank you for showing us it can affect anyone.

  12. Zoë

    That’s the difficulty, isn’t it? With our memory and imagination and awareness we focus on what once was, what could be, what “should” be (according to whom?), while forgetting to exercise the ability to accept what we are.

    What was but no longer is represents loss. It hurts, but I think it needs to be experienced before it can be let go. For me, one loss was to go from medication-free to being on prescriptions indefinitely and possibly forever, which changed how I viewed myself and I didn’t like it. My Wolf has experienced that and then some: open-heart surgery affects your sense of identity. I suspect this to be true of any major surgery. He also has the constant reminder of a daily fistful of pills and the constant ticking of the artificial valve. We change. Some changes are harder than others.

    Understanding something intellectually but not feeling it is very familiar to me. It takes time to deeply absorb some ideas but it can be done, with practice and a little help from your friends. I think this is a brilliant step and I wish you the very best 🙂

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  14. Mrs Fever


    *slow clap*

    Cropping and angling and “best sides” are to truthful photography what Fakebooking is to real life. I have the utmost respect for people who are willing to tell/show their truths, because at the end of the day, that’s what makes our imperfections beautiful.

    Bravo! For your words, your image, and the intent behind them. 🙂

    1. Silver Eagle

      Well said, Mrs. Fever. As a 66 year old I can appreciate the loss of body image.

  15. Marie Rebelle

    Thank you for posting this! Thank you! I really hope it sparks a lot of people to post the parts they don’t like about themselves. I have done that too in the past, as I wanted to give the full picture and I will keep on doing so (except for my face of course, for now). I have so much respect for you and Silverdrop and like Honey said, I am damn happy you survived and are here today to post this and so much more!

    Rebel xox

    PS: I was surprised 😉

    1. SilverHubby Post author

      That’s the difference, isn’t it? I look at your photographs (before and after weight loss), and consistently see a beautiful woman. But we are so much harder on ourselves, aren’t we?

      PS. Thank you! 🙂

  16. Victoria Blisse

    I appreciate your belly love. I am not particularly kind to my own, either. But I think we all should be sweeter with our tums. Great photo. I look forward to more belly!

  17. Modesty Ablaze

    Wonderful post . . . AND, by the way . . . wonderful cock !!!
    I always think it is what is within that makes us who we are . . . and very often it is the sharing of things that we ourselves are unsure of, that makes one a better person.
    Xxx – K

  18. Julie

    I am so pleased you have posted this wonderful photo. As Rebecca says it is difficult to come to terms with changes to our body, but it is who we are, honestly and not photoshopped.

    Well done you for setting us such a wonderful example. Lovely cock by the way (blushes). xx

  19. Rebecca

    When we are truly loved we are loved despite all those body parts we hate. Females like myself struggle with body image like you I hate my stomach but I am very slowly realising it is part of me. You posting this is wonderfully body positive and let’s face it unless we are photoshopped to death none of us conform to perfection. Personality is the sexiest as well as inbetween our ears. I salute you xx

    1. SilverHubby Post author

      🙂 And we frequently understand things at an intellectual level… then our emotional baggage kicks in. It’s a WIP.

  20. HappyComeLucky

    You rock! Also, thank you. It can be a challenge to share those parts that we struggle to feel happy with, especially when life forced those changes on us. You know what, I am very glad that you are here and that you survived. I am also very glad you made this post.

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